afflictive

tuskallinen That causes physical or mental pain.
1716, (w), (w), 2nd edition edited by (w), London: J. Payne, 1756, Part I, p. 44,https://archive.org/details/christianmorals01browgoog

(..) we consider not sufficiently the good of evils, nor fairly compute the mercies of PROVIDENCE in things afflictive at first hand.

All this from Jove’s afflictive Hand we bear:

Who, far from Argos, wills our Ruin here.

But canst Thou, tender Maid, canst Thou sustain

Afflictive Want, or Hunger’s pressing Pain?

In my childhood I could not imagine a more afflictive punishment than for my mother to refuse to kiss me at night: the very idea was terrible.